“You’ll never share real love until you love yourself.” That line is in the closing song of an amazing musical, RENT. The entire musical is inspirational and bold, but that one line speaks louder than all of the rest.
Many people spend a vast amount of time searching for love, often in ways that likely inhibit their chances of finding real love in the long run. People don’t just search for someone to love they search for someone to complete them, to make them whole, and that’s not how it should be. We were made as whole people; we are not puzzle pieces that are only complete when we are connected to someone else. We are the whole picture, and each person has so much to offer the world but often they forget to recognize their own potential. People are so focused on finding someone to love them, but the person who can love you the most and will never hurt you is right in front of you when you look in the mirror. You will never find real love until you fall in love with the person looking back at you.
The media often makes it difficult to love the imperfect person you are. It is important to remember that the models in magazines have been airbrushed to a degree that they don’t even look like themselves. The body type that is exhibited by runway models is only attainable by a mere five percent of the population. These people are not real, and their lives are consumed by minimal eating and excessive exercise. We can’t compare ourselves to the people we see on TV or in magazines. We can only be compared to our past self, who we should always be striving to improve. As long as you are trying to make yourself and the world around you better you have every reason to love who you are. Beauty is not one thing. Beauty is defined as “the quality present in a thing or person that gives intense pleasure or deep satisfaction to the mind.” It is not defined as being a size two, or being blonde, or having long wavy hair. Beauty comes from what you look like, but more importantly it comes from who you are. You can bring pleasure “to the mind” by being kind, gentle, patient or funny. In a world filled with so much negativity it is important to remain positive about yourself.
When it gets hard to love the person you are take a deep breath, look in the mirror, and say three things you love about the way you look. Then say five things that you love about your personality. If you do this every time you have a negative thought about yourself you will fall in love with who you are in no time. When you love yourself it’s easier for everyone else to love you too, and then you can search for someone to compliment your beautiful soul instead of complete it.